I read an article recently in which someone discussed why “Be yourself” is the worst advice a person can get. The question brought to the table was, “How can you be yourself if you don’t know who you are?”
That’s where a person may overthink this. You don’t have to know yourself in order to be yourself. It’s not about knowing or even thinking, it’s simply about being, about letting go and allowing the spirit of who you are to take over.
“Be yourself” doesn’t mean “Know who you are,” it means ‘Be who you are in this moment, even if who you are is lost.’ If you’re lost right now, then be lost. That is being yourself. It’s not about knowing, it’s about honesty. It’s about being aware of who you are at this point in time. This is in contrast to chasing the knowledge of who you are in the big picture of life as a whole.
Truly, I don’t think anyone can really know who they are at all times. We are constantly changing as we experience life – evolving what we think, how we feel, and even who we’re willing to be friends with – so if you attempt to “Be yourself” from the standpoint of needing to know yourself as a finished product, then you’ll never achieve that at any time in your life. No one is a finished product; we are always developing in some way. This is why, from this perspective, you will never “Be yourself” and you’ll think that someone telling you to do so is giving bad advice.
Essentially, if you don’t know who you are right now, then that is you. And every experience you have in attempting to figure out who you are, or who you aren’t, that is you. If you are aware of this, if you are honest about who you are right now, then you can be yourself. The only thing you need to know concerning who you are is that the person you are will always be experiencing and changing and growing. This is why you don’t have to know, you can simply be aware, simply be.